Today, in the wake of the terrific Charlie Hebdo attack, it can be hard to find things to smile about. But we still must try.
People make the world beautiful in many ways. Today, I am smiling about the Facebook group/campaign, Photo Doggies for Anthony. The group was started by Roberta Lucero-Koron in order to bring some cheer to her friend’s 16-year-old son, Anthony, who is being treated for acute lymphoblastic leukemia. Photo Doggies for Anthony asks Facebook users around the world to post pictures of their dogs along with information about where the dog lives. As of two days ago, over half a million puppy photos had been posted – and the number has continued to grow exponentially since then.
If you love puppies and need a boost of spirit today, check out the pictures. And if you have a puppy, consider posting a photo and sharing a positive, get-well/supportive message with Anthony.
Here is what we posted on behalf of our little smooshie guy:
“Hello, Anthony! My name is Ollie. I live in Greensboro, NC and I’m six months old. I hate wearing silly coats in the winter – and love playing with tennis balls! My people and I are sending you best wishes for your treatment and recovery! Xo (& WOOF!).”
Do you like puppy photos? What cheers you up during a tough time? And how do you cheer others up when they need support?
Well! We have just returned home after two full weeks back home in NY. Our drive up was done in one shot, made bearable by the unexpectedly perfect behavior of our almost-5-month-old puppy and the fact that we had yet to listen to any episodes of Serial. All (at the time) 9 episodes, and many rounds of “whodunnit!?” later, we arrived in NY, and unpacked several suitcases, two bags of doggie items, and an XXL crate.
The trip was fantastic. Our post-Hurricane- Sandy home is still kitchen-less, so we celebrated our second Thanksgiving in a row in the East Village at our favorite Cuban restaurant. We were the only diners, aside from the restaurant owners and staff, and we all shared the small dining room to toast to friends, family, and feeling grateful.
The days that preceded and followed the holiday itself flew by. My partner’s visit was broken up by a 2 day business trip that took him to and from Minneapolis. Meanwhile, puppy and I stayed home so that he could play non-stop with my parents’ 3 dogs. A house filled with 4 dogs – ranging in age from 5 months to 10 years, and in size from 30 lbs to 90 lbs – is loud, chaotic, and cuddly. It requires a lot of dog treats, water bowls, paper towel, and patience. Walking 3 puppies at a time may lead to sprained fingers (I still can’t make a tight fist with my left hand…), but snuggling on the couch with 3 or 4 puppies at a time really is the loveliest.
The best part of our time in NY was getting to visit with family and friends for such a long time. Generally, we don’t have the opportunity to visit – and stay for 14 days. But once we moved so far away – and once we realized we were going to spend 20-hours driving roundtrip – we decided to make the most of the visit. We had brunches and dinners, we made quick visits for hugs and “see how big little baby has gotten,” and hosted long visits where “just stopping by” turned into “yes, I’ll have another Scotch and what do you have in the fridge?” And we got to spend lots of time with my parents and brother, working from home in my dad’s office, doing errands and holiday shopping, and just relaxing and enjoying NY during the holiday season.
Our ride home was split into two parts, with a last-minute overnight stop at Kuna and Pierre’s after traffic and pouring rain got the best of us.
Now, we’re back in North Carolina and Ollie is full-on sulking; he clearly misses his puppy-pack and is not thrilled about returning to life as an only child. I am terribly homesick, but am excited to be back on the blog and to get back to work. I’m also ready to plunge headfirst into the holiday season! Most of all, I’m looking forward to twinkling lights, delicious food, hot cocoa, chilled cocktails, Christmas music, reading end-of-year best-of lists, wearing sparkly clothes, getting cards with the faces of people I love on them, and wrapping presents (yep! I love to wrap them!).
What are you most excited about when it comes to the holiday season?!
Recently, we adopted little Ollie from a rescue organization. Ollie is adorable and mischievous. He has limitless energy and is as curious as a little pup can be. Given his propensity to constantly stay next to me, I recently wondered if we should have named him Shadow instead. In truth, I did more than wonder; I asked him. Out loud. It went like this: just after walking into the kitchen and turning around, surprised to find that a previously sleeping Ollie was now sitting next to my left ankle, I mused aloud. “Ollie! What are you doing here, sleepy boy? Should we have named you Shadow!?” He looked at me. We started walking into the living room. My phone rang. He cocked his head to the side, unsure of this new sound. “That’s my phone ringing. It’s okay,” I told him, as I sat down at the coffee table. He laid down next to me and fell asleep.
This is my new M.O. – constant narration. I find myself narrating all of my actions. In part, I do this because I don’t see Ollie as “just a dog,” in the way that some people view dogs as being as important a part of the room as the coffee table itself. They wouldn’t narrate their afternoon to a table, of course, so they don’t narrate it to their dog. Unfortunately, for both these people and their dogs, they are doing little to help their pups become smarter.
According to research from Stan Coren, “you improve the IQ of your dog, the same way you improve the IQ of your kids. And that is, you talk to them all the time. And you give them as many different experiences as you can. You see, the more the dog has to think about, the more the dog has to do, the brighter the dog becomes.” Coren goes on to explain that while you can’t change the natural level of intelligence of your pup, their “native smarts,” you can change their crystallized intelligence (the sum of what they have learned) by simply teaching them more things. Even more interesting is his disclosure that the more dogs learn, the more they want to – and can – learn.
Essentially, we can prime dogs to learn more easily, teach them more things, and ultimately improve their overall intelligence, simply by exposing them to new situations and talking to them about anything and everything. People often say that they talk to their dogs because the dogs listen – and they don’t talk back. But just because they don’t talk back doesn’t mean that they do not understand.
While I enjoyed reading about the research on improving canine IQ, it did not come as a surprise. The first day that Ollie came to live with us, my Mom told me on the phone that I was to “talk to him, all the time, and never stop.” So began my active narration of every day life. “Good morning, my Ollie!” “Let’s walk to the elevator.” “Mommy is making breakfast for Ollie!” “Please do not eat squirrels.” I talk to Ollie so much that I recently told my fiancé that I would only be half-surprised if one day, he just answered me back. “Well,” I can imagine him saying, “if you’re making lunch for yourself, can you at least toss me a treat?”
If you’re looking to increase the intelligence of your pup, try describing the process of making them dinner. If you put them in the crate before heading out for the night, tell them that they are a very good pup, that you love them, and that you will be back very soon. Talk – a lot – and help expose your little pooch to as much as possible, socially and verbally.
As I always say, there are no dumb dogs, only silent owners. Woof.